I find that I prefer speaking over writing these days. We'll see if that keeps up, for now YouTube videos it is! I have been on a roll.
I realize that everyone has a preferred mode of taking in information, I imagine that videos are good for some of you and less so for others.
This link will bring you to YouTube where you can watch a video about the six week teleclass that I am teaching beginning in the middle of October called "Yes! That's My Business". The video is a bit of an infomercial AND it contains some interesting ideas and explorations about what we take to be our own business. I think it's worth watching even if you aren't considering taking the class itself.
When I reference "my business" I am referring to the idea that there are three kinds of business - mine, yours (other people's), and God's/Life's. Byron Katie has a fabulous, succinct video in which she lays this idea out with classic Katie panache. Click this link to watch Katie's video.
When we believe something is for sure, without a doubt our business to deal with, take care of, take responsibility for, a concept is laid right over top of whatever it is we are looking at in reality.
This conceptual overlay by it's very nature changes the our ability to directly perceive reality. Can you see this in your mind's eye?
I see the thing I take to be my business - whatever it is - mothering, what I eat, how I treat people - I see it sort of floating there, and then I see a very thin film get dropped over it as soon as I believe that it is my business.
The thin film prevents me from clearly seeing what is going on, and it also begins to tighten, constrict, and truss up the actual thing sitting there. When this film and constrictive, controlling energy that is created when we believe something is our business is firmly in place, our innate love and presence cannot come though as easily and wisely "see" this thing we are taking to be our business. The natural, love-propelled response or right action latent within us is muted, or even completely transmuted.
In practical terms, when I take mothering to be my business (I have 2 children) I begin to relate to them through a lens of tension. It feels tight and frightening to be the mother. I begin to see my children as objects that I have power over, objects I have to deal with, objects that I have ultimate responsibility over.
I innocently believe that this thought - mothering is my business - keeps me a good parent. The true effect is much different. And, right underneath the thought that mothering is my business is the belief that something deeply loving, wise, and beautiful would not arise to be with my children if I were to let go of it being my business. I believe the thought keeps me being good, and without it I would run away, or be negligent. When I believe that it is no wonder I hold onto the idea that mothering is my business - my integrity allows nothing less.
I go into all of this more thoroughly in the video - I invite you to watch it if you are called to. I love getting comments and questions in the comments section below the video - as well as via email.
I hope you have a beautiful day (I am spending my afternoon on my cozy sun porch, rain falling heavy and delicious outside on the green fields.)