I want to share a very simple practice with you today. I use this one frequently when I experience emotional or mental pain. It is deceptively simple, deceptive in that if you really drop into the practice it can completely flip the way you are relating to the world, and quite quickly.
The other morning I was preparing for the first teleclass of "Yes, that's my business", and I had some nervousness. It wasn't overwhelming, just sort of an unease waving up from the background at semi-regular intervals.
My first, mostly unconscious, response to the nervousness was to resist it. 'No... no, I have to get rid of this nervousness before the class starts. I have to be calm. This has to go away.'
Basic garden-variety resistance. Resistance to what is. It's normal to think that we should try to alter or amend the way that we are feeling.
Fortunately I am blessed with a meditation for just such times. Once I realized that I was in resistance (you have to notice the resistance before you can do anything about it), I allowed myself to fully let in it in. Let it in so fully that I could feel every little bit of it, to really allow myself to see how being in resistance to nervousness affected my world.
I said to myself "I don't EVER want to feel this nervousness ever again. And I felt into that position. I inquired into that stance, the stance of total resistance to experiencing nervousness. It doesn't feel good. In fact it feels hellish. Stuck, Terrifying.
Then I felt into the opposite stance, the Turnaround if you will. I said "I'm willing, I look forward to experiencing this nervousness. I'm willing to feel this." And I sensed into that position, slowly letting the feel of it revel itself. Relief, an easing.
And then the kicker, the stance that has the possibility of melting all resistance entirely - "I'm willing, I look forward to experiencing this nervousness for eternity." (Yes, I said that - FOR ETERNITY.)
And that is where the flip happens. Total acceptance and suddenly a peace moves in. I'm willing for this sweet Evangeline to be nervous forever. I love her. I'm willing for her be a total nervous wreck on the teleclass. Even for eternity. No pressure sweetheart.
With this unconditional acceptance of what is (nervousness) magic happens. The human is forgiven and allowed and loved, and with that a great peace comes.
I invite you to try it, but go gently with yourself. All things in their time. The first time I tried this I thought my teacher was a complete nut case. It took 3 years for me before I felt the flip. I COULD NOT see how accepting myself speaking from the ego for eternity could do anyone any good.
May you bless and be blessed,
In the works - mark your calendar - a 3 night night retreat June 20th to 23rd 2019 at the Lodge at Light on the Hill. Details forthcoming.
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